An Explanation
An emotion that has eluded many for centuries. Why do we feel the need to embark upon the journey of romantic love? What is it that draws us in?
Love is the basic need of every person in the entire world. If someone tell you that they don't need love, they are most likely not telling you the truth. It is an emotion which surpasses us all: we cannot fully understand it no matter how hard we try or how intelligent we are.
It has been immortalized in song lyrics, literature, the media, et cetera. We learn as children that we will grow up one day and meet our prince or princess and live happily ever after. Unfortunately, we learned as teenagers that the fairy tale is simply that: a tale. And we realize that we must forge our own path towards happiness - even if that means pricking our fingers on spindles or eating poisoned apples or losing our glass slippers.
We also realize that love has many different subcategories and definitions - and that our subcategories and definitions may differ with others, especially our parents.
So how can we learn how to find the right person for us and how to be with them and how to keep them and how to make it work and how to be happy? While there is no way to give an universal answer to each of those questions, there are some helpful guidelines that I live by.
We each go through stages in our life. We aren't the same "person" one year that we are the next year. Therefore, one person may be right for you at one time in your life, and not right for you if you had met them one year earlier or one year later. So take advantage of the opportunity you have with them right then. Carpe diem - Seize the day.
Once you have found someone that makes you feel amazing, glad to be who you are, and inspired about life, then you may have found the right person for you at that time in your life. Let them know how you feel, if you know that informing them won't hurt the friendship or damage anything. You don't want to lose someone that you truly care for - but there may be an underlying paradox: telling them how you feel may hurt the relationship, but failing to tell them may also hurt the relationship. It is up to you to decide which category fits in with your situation and life.
Keep the relationship honest. Keep it fun. At our age, nothing seems to last forever. Friends come and go, people move away, schools change, family situations transform. We never know where we seem to stand with anything. The only constant is ourselves. If and/or when you find someone who truly cares about you and someone that truly cares about you and you've entered a relationship, a natural tendency is to become very scared. Scared of losing them; the "too good to be true" complex that so commonly plagues teenagers. You might as well learn about love and learn about life through the relationship. Don't worry about getting too serious at a young age. Keep the activities fun and creative and you'll find that love can be very enjoyable and exciting and inspiring and overwhelmingly fantastic.
"All you need is love" - The Beatles.
Love is the basic need of every person in the entire world. If someone tell you that they don't need love, they are most likely not telling you the truth. It is an emotion which surpasses us all: we cannot fully understand it no matter how hard we try or how intelligent we are.
It has been immortalized in song lyrics, literature, the media, et cetera. We learn as children that we will grow up one day and meet our prince or princess and live happily ever after. Unfortunately, we learned as teenagers that the fairy tale is simply that: a tale. And we realize that we must forge our own path towards happiness - even if that means pricking our fingers on spindles or eating poisoned apples or losing our glass slippers.
We also realize that love has many different subcategories and definitions - and that our subcategories and definitions may differ with others, especially our parents.
So how can we learn how to find the right person for us and how to be with them and how to keep them and how to make it work and how to be happy? While there is no way to give an universal answer to each of those questions, there are some helpful guidelines that I live by.
We each go through stages in our life. We aren't the same "person" one year that we are the next year. Therefore, one person may be right for you at one time in your life, and not right for you if you had met them one year earlier or one year later. So take advantage of the opportunity you have with them right then. Carpe diem - Seize the day.
Once you have found someone that makes you feel amazing, glad to be who you are, and inspired about life, then you may have found the right person for you at that time in your life. Let them know how you feel, if you know that informing them won't hurt the friendship or damage anything. You don't want to lose someone that you truly care for - but there may be an underlying paradox: telling them how you feel may hurt the relationship, but failing to tell them may also hurt the relationship. It is up to you to decide which category fits in with your situation and life.
Keep the relationship honest. Keep it fun. At our age, nothing seems to last forever. Friends come and go, people move away, schools change, family situations transform. We never know where we seem to stand with anything. The only constant is ourselves. If and/or when you find someone who truly cares about you and someone that truly cares about you and you've entered a relationship, a natural tendency is to become very scared. Scared of losing them; the "too good to be true" complex that so commonly plagues teenagers. You might as well learn about love and learn about life through the relationship. Don't worry about getting too serious at a young age. Keep the activities fun and creative and you'll find that love can be very enjoyable and exciting and inspiring and overwhelmingly fantastic.
"All you need is love" - The Beatles.
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